This morning as I was leaving the little store down the road, a nice young gentleman held open the door for me. My guess is he was no older than 15 or 16 and he ever so willingly held the door open responded to my thank you with a "no problem ma'am" as I passed on by. Aside from my husband, I can not recall the last time this has happened.
This week has been a series of reflections on me of different times, different lives and different lifestyles. One thing I think we miss the most with our children are the lessons in etiquette and manners. It doesn't hurt a young man to hold a door open for a lady nor does it hurt a young lady to stand and wait for him to do that.
How many teen ladies simply run you over going through the door and how many times does anyone make them accountable for that? How many young men offer to hold the door open or when do we stand and wait for that either?
We are in such a hurry for destination or to beat the other guy to whatever deal we are seeking that we fail to realize each one of us can work towards discipline and mannerisms that makes this world a better place. I have noticed that many young men will open the door if I stop and wait in anticipation. Sometimes they seem surprised but often I see their expressions soften and their hurry turn into grace.
This leads me to wonder whether I personally contribute to the lack of manners. How many times do I hustle through a doorway, grabbing it and opening it hoping to not have to deal with anyone else? Instead, I could pause and wait for the gentleman to be a gentleman and I could demonstrate my lady mannerisms through acceptance and thankfulness.
Our world is becoming increasingly confusing and hurried. We all want to prove our independence and capabilities in surviving the changes. But, I don't think accepting or better yet, demanding manners from ladies and gentlemen will weaken those capabilities or negatively effect our survival.
My weekend project - stop at the door - see who opens it. When they do, thank them profusely and mean it!
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